I once again cannot speak to marriage as this is the case for this week's book, because I write from my own experiences so what I will do is write from what I do know, being in a successful 3 year relationship with my partner. What you eventually learn is that relationships are not as easy as the movies out to make it. We love, we get our hearts broken, we break up and start with new people only to sometimes go back to someone we once were with.
Yes real life is really as messy as the TV show: Gossip Girl. And this is what we have to live with. There must be an intentionality about your life as well where the relationship is going. So make sure you have a plan for your life and a plan for your relationship.
My partner made me aware of this. There will be fighting that happens and that is normal, this is simply because of differing points of view and opinion. This will spark fights and anger but always be able to communicate and speak to each other after. Sometimes all someone needs to hear that you acknowledge your wrongs and genuinely apologize and not apologize for the sake of it.
This simply means understanding that if your partner has had a tough week, that you take this into your consideration and do something thoughtful. The truth is that all we really want in this life, is to know someone cares about us. Everyone has dreams and ambitions they want to achieve, this might be bigger or smaller than yours and that is ok.
You shouldnt belittle someone or be insecure about what they want from life. Remember iron sharpens iron. Support your partner and help them get to where they want to get to. Sex is very important part of a realtionship and it is the glue that holds it together. There are some exceptions but the general rule is this: more sex is good and less sex is bad for a relationship so have more sex! The truth is that everyone lies at some stage or the other, but some lies can destroy the trust in relationships and this is something to really be aware of at all times.
